For almost everything, there's always a reason or some. This one is a great theory because it is so true, indeed. It is for the most simple things to the most complex ones, there's always a reason. For example, why people sleeps at night? It is because people usually work and do stuff from morning until afternoon since there's sunlight. Or like, why people hate each other? Could be because they've hurt each others' feeling.
This theory help me to be more patient, understanding, and also forgiving. But, before I use it for myself, I often use it to advised someone first :p (After all, talking or advising is easier than doing.) Having many experience (giving advice) with this theory, I started using it for myself. I have this believe that basically everybody's nice. So, when it comes to bad people, I often search for answers and reasons he/she being bad. Sometimes, from their family background, their past, their motives, or anything is possible. Finding the reasons, makes me more understanding. For example, when a guy did something that hurt my feeling on purpose, I started questioning. First, whats wrong with him? But, that doesn't give me much answer (only makes me swearing even more :p). Then I go to the other questions, whats my fault? what did I do to make him feel so bad/mad and do something like that? And, there's where I found the answers. Well, maybe I didn't do something on purpose to make him feel so mad which make him do something that bad, but it is something i didn't realize at first. It is something that I realized after I tried to feel in his shoes. Even what i found was not really that big of reason for some kind of revenge, but still is a reason (well,maybe it did hurt him that much). The finding made forgiving an easier things to do. That was a little of my story and my implementations ;)
It only takes more time and effort to search for a reason. It is not that hard and yet it is not that easy :p Because sometimes, the reason is just not for you to find out, something called privacy. But believe me, there's always a reason, even no reason at all is a reason (if you get what I mean ;) ). However, not everyone likes to share their reasons and also not everyone should know your reasons ;) The things that you have to believe and remind to yourself is that "There's always a reason". It will help you to be more understanding and forgiving. Trust me, It does work. Well, Happy "Reasoning",folks ! :p
This theory help me to be more patient, understanding, and also forgiving. But, before I use it for myself, I often use it to advised someone first :p (After all, talking or advising is easier than doing.) Having many experience (giving advice) with this theory, I started using it for myself. I have this believe that basically everybody's nice. So, when it comes to bad people, I often search for answers and reasons he/she being bad. Sometimes, from their family background, their past, their motives, or anything is possible. Finding the reasons, makes me more understanding. For example, when a guy did something that hurt my feeling on purpose, I started questioning. First, whats wrong with him? But, that doesn't give me much answer (only makes me swearing even more :p). Then I go to the other questions, whats my fault? what did I do to make him feel so bad/mad and do something like that? And, there's where I found the answers. Well, maybe I didn't do something on purpose to make him feel so mad which make him do something that bad, but it is something i didn't realize at first. It is something that I realized after I tried to feel in his shoes. Even what i found was not really that big of reason for some kind of revenge, but still is a reason (well,maybe it did hurt him that much). The finding made forgiving an easier things to do. That was a little of my story and my implementations ;)
It only takes more time and effort to search for a reason. It is not that hard and yet it is not that easy :p Because sometimes, the reason is just not for you to find out, something called privacy. But believe me, there's always a reason, even no reason at all is a reason (if you get what I mean ;) ). However, not everyone likes to share their reasons and also not everyone should know your reasons ;) The things that you have to believe and remind to yourself is that "There's always a reason". It will help you to be more understanding and forgiving. Trust me, It does work. Well, Happy "Reasoning",folks ! :p
